Study your desires. Find out what’s at the root of them. But don’t do it as an inquisitor; do it with love. They are your desires after all. Coax them, woo them, find out what they really want. It’s almost always not what they act out. They only do that out of rebellion—they will not be denied! But with love, they stop their self-destructive behavior, and their inner beauty shines through. The more you acknowledge their innocence, the faster they will reveal it to you.